MOVING IN TOGETHER: IS THERE ROOM FOR 2?
When you find love and decide to move in together, it seems like a great idea. You’re taking a big step in your relationship and you’re getting everything you wanted. But, are you?
Its bedtime and you’re used to sprawling out to get comfy. However, you know have someone else in the bed with you and you’re fighting for space that used to be occupied to you. You thought, you would be cuddling every night.
Its dinnertime and you’re hungry for pizza. You failed to remember that your better half could consume a whole pizza in minutes. You’re now going to the refrigerator to find some leftovers from two nights ago.
Moving in with someone is a big step for every relationship. This is when you start to share you resources. That chip dip that would last you 4 nights is gone in one sitting and the loaf of bread that seemed to last forever is gone within a week.
You have to learn the real meaning of sharing. It’s difficult to wrap your head around the idea of sharing everything with this other person, albeit you’re in love with them. Sometimes, that pizza is just your pizza and sharing you morning coffee seems like a giant feat. You have to remember, you’ve made it! You’re living with your lover and your best friend. But, sharing the space is hard.
I bet you didn’t realize how much space you actually hard before they moved in, right? Right now, it seems like their hogging all the space, there is room for you anymore. The alarm clock goes off at 6am, its time for your morning run. However, they won’t take up until 7:30am, hitting the snooze button and accidentally waking them up twice before 7:30am seems like the end of the world. What a great way to start off the morning, with a cranky partner. Remember, you’re in love and you have a lot of things other people only dream of having. To smooth things over, when you get back from your run make breakfast for their wake up time. Everything will be ok, this moving in thing, is a great thing.
It seems one person needs everything and the other nothing. Someone will walk into a store and the “I need, I need” kicks in. You know, you go into a shop to get some mouthwash and you leave with £150 worth of merchandise. While they never spend money on anything, maybe an odd lunch here and there. It makes you feel like you’re doing something wrong. You’re not, it’s just the way people are, spenders and keepers. Maybe each of your can learn a few things from each other. Its ok to spend, but don’t over or under spend. You’re in a relationship now; start saving for a trip together.
Moving in is a step that every relationship needs to take. Its rarely every easy and you’ll learn new things about each other. You just have to remember, you’re in love, you’re happy. It will take time to get used to this new situation, but that is the same for everything. You can do it, you can make it work.
Wednesday, 30 March 2016
Monday, 29 February 2016
Lachido Reduce Your Chance Of Being Cheated
Why People Cheat: Reduce Your Chance Of Being Cheated On.
Both men and women are guilty of infidelity, but why? This article will take a look at why people cheat. Find out what you can do to stop your relationship from ending because someone isn’t happy.
What are the main reasons people cheat? Studies have shown that when people cheat they’re usually feeling disconnected to their partner. Cheating happens on every level, from new relationship to serious relationship. People report that they felt their partners under appreciated them; this is the foundation of cheating. However, this isn’t to rule out that sex isn’t part of the problem; you need to be emotionally and physically fulfilled to have a healthy relationship.
Often it’s suggested that people are cheating because they’re not attracted to their partner. However, studies show that cheaters don’t describe their partner’s counterparts as being more attractive. Therefore, its most likely an emotional disconnects.
People cheat because they want to feel wanted. People want to affirmation they’re still attractive, because they’re feeling insecure. When someone is feeling insecure they will seek comfort from a person that makes them feel better about themselves.
Usually affairs stem from the office. If someone is looking for attention, it will come from a coworker. A coworker who sees you as smart, power and gives you respect. More times than not, they start off as innocent flirting and turn into something physical.
Outside influences can be a catalyst for cheating. Being around single friends who are having fun, sleeping around maybe cause feelings that it’s what you should be doing as well. Cheating isn’t fun. It hurtful and it can cause everyone involved serious and long-term emotional grief.
The follow are tips on show you can reduce the chances of getting cheated on.
Reduce Your Chance Of Being Cheated On Tip 1: Be aware of your relationship at all times. Relationships are not easy; you have to work at them. Don’t get so comfortable that you lose the identity of your relationship, remember why you fell in love, in the first place. Keep doing the things that made the relationship work, getting dressed up; playing around, having date nights to remind each other what you have is important.
Don’t forget that being in a relationship doesn’t mean you can let yourself go. Keep in shape and keep a healthy positive demeanor.
Reduce Your Chance Of Being Cheated On Tip 2: Communication is one of the biggest factors in creating a successful relationship. If you feel that something has changed its best to address the situation. Talk to your partner and find out what’s happening. Having great communication is the key to saving your relationship.
Reduce Your Chance Of Being Cheated On Tip 3: Keep in mind that every great relationship had 2 keys for success, an emotional and a physically connection. You can’t read each other’s minds, so talk about what you’re feeling. Keep the relationship fresh by spicing things up in the bedroom or going on a trip. Don’t let your relationship get stale. Never go too long without having sex with your partner, make sure, you make them feel wanted. You need to put the effort in to get the good results you want.
It’s hard to really pinpoint why people do anything. However, if you follow these tips you should create a more healthy and dynamic relationship that will keep both parties happy and both parties in the same bed.
Both men and women are guilty of infidelity, but why? This article will take a look at why people cheat. Find out what you can do to stop your relationship from ending because someone isn’t happy.
What are the main reasons people cheat? Studies have shown that when people cheat they’re usually feeling disconnected to their partner. Cheating happens on every level, from new relationship to serious relationship. People report that they felt their partners under appreciated them; this is the foundation of cheating. However, this isn’t to rule out that sex isn’t part of the problem; you need to be emotionally and physically fulfilled to have a healthy relationship.
Often it’s suggested that people are cheating because they’re not attracted to their partner. However, studies show that cheaters don’t describe their partner’s counterparts as being more attractive. Therefore, its most likely an emotional disconnects.
People cheat because they want to feel wanted. People want to affirmation they’re still attractive, because they’re feeling insecure. When someone is feeling insecure they will seek comfort from a person that makes them feel better about themselves.
Usually affairs stem from the office. If someone is looking for attention, it will come from a coworker. A coworker who sees you as smart, power and gives you respect. More times than not, they start off as innocent flirting and turn into something physical.
Outside influences can be a catalyst for cheating. Being around single friends who are having fun, sleeping around maybe cause feelings that it’s what you should be doing as well. Cheating isn’t fun. It hurtful and it can cause everyone involved serious and long-term emotional grief.
The follow are tips on show you can reduce the chances of getting cheated on.
Reduce Your Chance Of Being Cheated On Tip 1: Be aware of your relationship at all times. Relationships are not easy; you have to work at them. Don’t get so comfortable that you lose the identity of your relationship, remember why you fell in love, in the first place. Keep doing the things that made the relationship work, getting dressed up; playing around, having date nights to remind each other what you have is important.
Don’t forget that being in a relationship doesn’t mean you can let yourself go. Keep in shape and keep a healthy positive demeanor.
Reduce Your Chance Of Being Cheated On Tip 2: Communication is one of the biggest factors in creating a successful relationship. If you feel that something has changed its best to address the situation. Talk to your partner and find out what’s happening. Having great communication is the key to saving your relationship.
Reduce Your Chance Of Being Cheated On Tip 3: Keep in mind that every great relationship had 2 keys for success, an emotional and a physically connection. You can’t read each other’s minds, so talk about what you’re feeling. Keep the relationship fresh by spicing things up in the bedroom or going on a trip. Don’t let your relationship get stale. Never go too long without having sex with your partner, make sure, you make them feel wanted. You need to put the effort in to get the good results you want.
It’s hard to really pinpoint why people do anything. However, if you follow these tips you should create a more healthy and dynamic relationship that will keep both parties happy and both parties in the same bed.
Wednesday, 27 January 2016
Lachido Jealous Lover
Jealous Lover
We all know that since it’s close to St. Patrick’s Day, everybody is seeing green. However, there are some people seeing green that it is not in their emerald green beers, but rather they are seeing green because they can not tame the green-eyed monster from rearing its ugly face in their dating lives.
Sure, jealousy is a natural emotion we all face from time to time. However, it’s how you choose to react to those insecure and envious feelings that can undermine and destroy a once stable relationship.
For those that need a reality check or for those looking for types of people to avoid, here is our online relationship guide to spotting the four types of jealous behavior green-eyed monster exhibit:
The Territorial Urinating Lover
Have you ever said hello to someone at a party and before you know it, their partner is on the scene practically lifting their legs and marking their territory and claim on their significant others like they were dogs? For people like this, I suggest that they take a deep breath and relax already! It’s perfectly acceptable for people to make small talk at parties and other social functions. It doesn’t mean your boyfriend/girlfriend is going to fall for the partygoer who shares the same love for pigs in a blanket as they do, so chill out! Feel free to mingle with other guests and give your significant lover some peace because after all, remember you are both individuals.
The Friend Blocking Significant Other
We all have friends who are joined at the hip to the significant others. These are the kind of people that are gigantic pushovers when their significant calls or texts every 10 minutes or so when they’re out with their friends. To end this quickly, always turn off your phone for at least 30 minutes to make a statement. When asked why your phone was off, you might have to address to your partner that they may have chronic separation anxiety and if that’s the case, it may be best to address this in a professional setting.
The Jealous Drama Queen or King
When you act out your envy in public, you’re humiliating yourself and you are especially humiliating your significant other. (Especially if you’re drunk!) So if you are one those types that have to let everyone know your private business and you feel the urge to shout, swear and throw your drink, then count to ten, take a deep a breath and sober up. Leave the kind of drama to the reality stars that the rest of the world mocks.
The Envious Downer
This occurs when somebody has too much pride or too big of an ego to admit that they are jealous. Instead, they rather ruin everybody’s good time with their negative feelings and energy. You never want to be that person and no one wants to be around THAT person. If you feel like you wear all of your emotions on your face and in the tone of your voice, politely excuse yourself and sleep on it. The next day, just apologize and admit why you were “down.”
We all know that since it’s close to St. Patrick’s Day, everybody is seeing green. However, there are some people seeing green that it is not in their emerald green beers, but rather they are seeing green because they can not tame the green-eyed monster from rearing its ugly face in their dating lives.
Sure, jealousy is a natural emotion we all face from time to time. However, it’s how you choose to react to those insecure and envious feelings that can undermine and destroy a once stable relationship.
For those that need a reality check or for those looking for types of people to avoid, here is our online relationship guide to spotting the four types of jealous behavior green-eyed monster exhibit:
The Territorial Urinating Lover
Have you ever said hello to someone at a party and before you know it, their partner is on the scene practically lifting their legs and marking their territory and claim on their significant others like they were dogs? For people like this, I suggest that they take a deep breath and relax already! It’s perfectly acceptable for people to make small talk at parties and other social functions. It doesn’t mean your boyfriend/girlfriend is going to fall for the partygoer who shares the same love for pigs in a blanket as they do, so chill out! Feel free to mingle with other guests and give your significant lover some peace because after all, remember you are both individuals.
The Friend Blocking Significant Other
We all have friends who are joined at the hip to the significant others. These are the kind of people that are gigantic pushovers when their significant calls or texts every 10 minutes or so when they’re out with their friends. To end this quickly, always turn off your phone for at least 30 minutes to make a statement. When asked why your phone was off, you might have to address to your partner that they may have chronic separation anxiety and if that’s the case, it may be best to address this in a professional setting.
The Jealous Drama Queen or King
When you act out your envy in public, you’re humiliating yourself and you are especially humiliating your significant other. (Especially if you’re drunk!) So if you are one those types that have to let everyone know your private business and you feel the urge to shout, swear and throw your drink, then count to ten, take a deep a breath and sober up. Leave the kind of drama to the reality stars that the rest of the world mocks.
The Envious Downer
This occurs when somebody has too much pride or too big of an ego to admit that they are jealous. Instead, they rather ruin everybody’s good time with their negative feelings and energy. You never want to be that person and no one wants to be around THAT person. If you feel like you wear all of your emotions on your face and in the tone of your voice, politely excuse yourself and sleep on it. The next day, just apologize and admit why you were “down.”
Tuesday, 29 December 2015
Lachido The Perks Of Being A Cougar
Less than a decade ago, Demi Moore made cougar dating popular and many older women took dating tips on how to snag a younger fella simply because she made it trendy. Now while seeing Demi Moore admitted into rehab and turning into a sad woman, there is unfortunately now a negative connotation incorporated into the word “cougar” . However, it’s important to note that Demi had the right idea–she just didn’t have the right young man.
It’s also important to note that Ms. Moore was a puma–not a cougar. A puma is a woman who dates someone 10 to 15 years younger than she is (which hardly ever has a great success rate) and cougars are women who date someone 5 to 10 years younger.
Nowadays, many women are dating men 5 to 10 years younger than them because many of those same single ladies have had their hearts continuously broken by men of the same age or older.
So if you’re flirting with the idea of dating a younger man, here are some great perks of being a cougar:
Dating Perk # 1: You Actually Get To Grow Old Together!
It may seem strange that I’m starting off my love advice list with a mortality angle, but it’s a noted fact that women do tend to outlive men by several years–which is strange considering there are so many older men dating younger women. If you’re looking to find love with a life-long partner, then being a cougar benefits you because you actually will get to grow old together.
Dating Perk # 2: Younger Men Who Date Older Women Are More Secure
If a younger man is attracted to a sophisticated older woman, it’s a great sign that he’s a progressive thinker who is very secure in his manhood. Think about it: He doesn’t need a younger trophy wife or girlfriend to stroke his male ego, because he’s more intrigued by the challenge of an older woman.
Dating Perk # 3: No Excess Baggage
Unless your young lover has a psycho ex-girlfriend, younger men generally tend to have less baggage than older men. Younger men generally don’t have alimony to pay off or have to pay off child benefits each month. Because they don’t have enormous debt, they are generally more happy than older men–which is great for you!
Dating Perk # 4: Less Risk Of Dating An Eternal Bachelor
If a man has never been able to sustain or even be in a live-in relationship by the time he’s 40, there is a pretty high chance that he will never be able to commit to a woman due to the fact that he is too stubborn and set in his ways to truly share his life with anyone besides himself. However, men in their late 20s or early 30s are more open to being in a long-term relationship if they find themselves smitten with you.
It’s also important to note that Ms. Moore was a puma–not a cougar. A puma is a woman who dates someone 10 to 15 years younger than she is (which hardly ever has a great success rate) and cougars are women who date someone 5 to 10 years younger.
Nowadays, many women are dating men 5 to 10 years younger than them because many of those same single ladies have had their hearts continuously broken by men of the same age or older.
So if you’re flirting with the idea of dating a younger man, here are some great perks of being a cougar:
Dating Perk # 1: You Actually Get To Grow Old Together!
It may seem strange that I’m starting off my love advice list with a mortality angle, but it’s a noted fact that women do tend to outlive men by several years–which is strange considering there are so many older men dating younger women. If you’re looking to find love with a life-long partner, then being a cougar benefits you because you actually will get to grow old together.
Dating Perk # 2: Younger Men Who Date Older Women Are More Secure
If a younger man is attracted to a sophisticated older woman, it’s a great sign that he’s a progressive thinker who is very secure in his manhood. Think about it: He doesn’t need a younger trophy wife or girlfriend to stroke his male ego, because he’s more intrigued by the challenge of an older woman.
Dating Perk # 3: No Excess Baggage
Unless your young lover has a psycho ex-girlfriend, younger men generally tend to have less baggage than older men. Younger men generally don’t have alimony to pay off or have to pay off child benefits each month. Because they don’t have enormous debt, they are generally more happy than older men–which is great for you!
Dating Perk # 4: Less Risk Of Dating An Eternal Bachelor
If a man has never been able to sustain or even be in a live-in relationship by the time he’s 40, there is a pretty high chance that he will never be able to commit to a woman due to the fact that he is too stubborn and set in his ways to truly share his life with anyone besides himself. However, men in their late 20s or early 30s are more open to being in a long-term relationship if they find themselves smitten with you.
Friday, 27 November 2015
Lachido Find Love
Find Love - Love and Depression
When we get into a new relationship with someone, we often showcase our happiest and entertaining selves to our significant others and that’s because we truly are happy with our new dating prospects and the incredible sex we are having with the object of our affections. However, if you struggle with anxiety, depression or any other common mental disorder, it can be extremely difficult to maintain a healthy relationship with someone we love.
If you are battling depression or anxiety, here are some key dating tips and love advice you should take when you are in a relationship:
Only Reveal Your Disorder To Your Partner In A Safe And Comfortable Environment
One of the most daunting things a person who suffers from depression can experience is admitting their flaws to their partners. If you sense that opening up about your prescriptions or your group therapy sessions, then steer clear of any serious conversations until you are serious with your significant other. If you are confident that they will not judge you from your vulnerabilities, then you should talk to them in a safe and comfortable environment such as your home. If they see it as a red flag, then it will save you much heartache down the road.
Keep It To Yourself At Least For The First Date
No matter how accepting your date is, if you start blabbing about taking meds before your appetizers arrive, then chances are that they will immediately be turned off from you. On the first date, you should just relax as much as you possibly can and let that person get to know the best side of you–because if they really like you, they won’t care about the future challenges that will come further down the line.
Always Admit Your Problems Before Moving In Together
If you suffer from a form of depression that makes you sabotage all your relationships, it’s only fair that your significant other knows about this before moving in together. He or she should always be aware of the therapy sessions you take and the prescriptions that you are on. They need to know about the side effects and mood swings beforehand in case they think they’re the ones responsible for your depression.
Reveal Details After Fights
It’s always best to give your lover a heads up after a fight that they weren’t responsible for. You should let your partner know about how you get when you break down for seemingly no reason at all. They should about your sudden mood changes and how they can support you when you are experiencing these negative emotions. By sharing this information with your partner, they will be able to help you when you need it and won’t get shocked when you have a meltdown.
When we get into a new relationship with someone, we often showcase our happiest and entertaining selves to our significant others and that’s because we truly are happy with our new dating prospects and the incredible sex we are having with the object of our affections. However, if you struggle with anxiety, depression or any other common mental disorder, it can be extremely difficult to maintain a healthy relationship with someone we love.
If you are battling depression or anxiety, here are some key dating tips and love advice you should take when you are in a relationship:
Only Reveal Your Disorder To Your Partner In A Safe And Comfortable Environment
One of the most daunting things a person who suffers from depression can experience is admitting their flaws to their partners. If you sense that opening up about your prescriptions or your group therapy sessions, then steer clear of any serious conversations until you are serious with your significant other. If you are confident that they will not judge you from your vulnerabilities, then you should talk to them in a safe and comfortable environment such as your home. If they see it as a red flag, then it will save you much heartache down the road.
Keep It To Yourself At Least For The First Date
No matter how accepting your date is, if you start blabbing about taking meds before your appetizers arrive, then chances are that they will immediately be turned off from you. On the first date, you should just relax as much as you possibly can and let that person get to know the best side of you–because if they really like you, they won’t care about the future challenges that will come further down the line.
Always Admit Your Problems Before Moving In Together
If you suffer from a form of depression that makes you sabotage all your relationships, it’s only fair that your significant other knows about this before moving in together. He or she should always be aware of the therapy sessions you take and the prescriptions that you are on. They need to know about the side effects and mood swings beforehand in case they think they’re the ones responsible for your depression.
Reveal Details After Fights
It’s always best to give your lover a heads up after a fight that they weren’t responsible for. You should let your partner know about how you get when you break down for seemingly no reason at all. They should about your sudden mood changes and how they can support you when you are experiencing these negative emotions. By sharing this information with your partner, they will be able to help you when you need it and won’t get shocked when you have a meltdown.
Friday, 30 October 2015
Lachido Common Dating Myths Debunked
To our great detriment, many single ladies are prone to making cold judgements about good people before we even give them a proper chance when it comes to our relationships. And for this, I blame outdated old wives’ tales and stereotypes. In order to have the true dating experience we all crave for, we must shed some light on some common dating myths and why we shouldn’t be living by them.
Dating Myth #1: Owning More Than One Cat Does Not Mean You Will Die An Old Maid
When we hear some woman has more than one cat, what is the first phrase that generally pops into your heads? “Crazy cat lady” would have been what I would have thought. Sure, there are crazy women that own cats for some reason, however it’s ridiculous to compare mental illness and celibacy with owning multiple cats.
Dating Myth # 2: Women Who Love Sweatpants Need Professional Help
The baggy sweatpants have gotten a bad reputation as of late. Almost every depression commercial depicts the sweatpants as a sure fire sign of mental instability. However, I beg to differ. Just because a woman wants to put on her most comfortable and over-sized sweatpants, does not means he needs to be quarantined and sedated. So behalf of all the sweatpant-wearing lounging single ladies out there, I salute you!
Dating Myth # 3: Poor Is The Same As Cheap
As women, we have a tendency to compare broke men to cheap men and I’m here to say that there is a HUGE difference between the two. Broke men may not have much, but what they do have, they happily share. Cheapskates, on the other hand, have a lot, but are really stingy about sharing it. A broke person’s paycheque is usually a temporary situation, where a cheap person’s attachment to his money is lifelong.
Dating Myth # 4: The Word ‘Nice’ Is Code For Hideous
Generally if you are in your teens or early twenties, hearing the word “nice” about a guy your friend was setting you up with usually meant they were ugly. However, after you get to your late twenties, you will realize that the word ‘Nice’ is usually welcome after the ‘cool’ guys broke your hearts.
Dating Myth #1: Owning More Than One Cat Does Not Mean You Will Die An Old Maid
When we hear some woman has more than one cat, what is the first phrase that generally pops into your heads? “Crazy cat lady” would have been what I would have thought. Sure, there are crazy women that own cats for some reason, however it’s ridiculous to compare mental illness and celibacy with owning multiple cats.
Dating Myth # 2: Women Who Love Sweatpants Need Professional Help
The baggy sweatpants have gotten a bad reputation as of late. Almost every depression commercial depicts the sweatpants as a sure fire sign of mental instability. However, I beg to differ. Just because a woman wants to put on her most comfortable and over-sized sweatpants, does not means he needs to be quarantined and sedated. So behalf of all the sweatpant-wearing lounging single ladies out there, I salute you!
Dating Myth # 3: Poor Is The Same As Cheap
As women, we have a tendency to compare broke men to cheap men and I’m here to say that there is a HUGE difference between the two. Broke men may not have much, but what they do have, they happily share. Cheapskates, on the other hand, have a lot, but are really stingy about sharing it. A broke person’s paycheque is usually a temporary situation, where a cheap person’s attachment to his money is lifelong.
Dating Myth # 4: The Word ‘Nice’ Is Code For Hideous
Generally if you are in your teens or early twenties, hearing the word “nice” about a guy your friend was setting you up with usually meant they were ugly. However, after you get to your late twenties, you will realize that the word ‘Nice’ is usually welcome after the ‘cool’ guys broke your hearts.
Wednesday, 30 September 2015
Lachido Can A Slow Burning Romance Spark A Long Lasting Flame
Not every happy romance starts off with a passionate Hollywood-like beginning. Some relationship back stories are downright dull, while others give pause for thought–which I like to call “The Slow-Burning Romance.”
A slow-burning romance is when one significant other in a content relationship admits that he or she did not fall in love right away with their partner instantaneously, but rather “grew to love” their like-minded partner over some time.
It may lack the kind of intensity that makes for a How I Met Your Mother-like story to tell to your closest friends and relatives, but it definitely beats the nauseating drama of explosive passion that fizzles just as quickly as it sparked up. (A hopeless romantic’s kyrptonite.)
The only problem that comes with a slow-burning romance is that at the beginning it is too difficult to determine whether you’re really “INTO” someone or not. Are you a realist who realizes a life-long partner is not going to be Don Juan Demarco? Or are you simply settling because you’re too afraid of being alone?
So how do you determine if your slow-burning romance will ignite a long-lasting flame or if it simply needs to be blown out?
By asking yourself the following three questions, you will have the love advice you need to make the right decision in your love life:
Dating Tip # 1: Do You Enjoy Your Significant Other’s Company?
Sure, your partner doesn’t make your heart skip a beat, but do you enjoy his or her company when they are around? Can you talk to them openly about your deepest desires and goals in life? Is hanging out with playing video games on a Friday night as fulfilling as a date out on the town? If the answer is yes, you should definitely give your partner a few more dates before making any rash decisions.
Dating Tip # 2: When you received good news, is your significant other the first person you want to share this news with?
Obviously, I don’t need to tell you that this a great sign. It means your partner is on your mind and first on your priority list–whether you love it or not.
Dating Tip # 3: Do you tense up when they want to touch, hug or kiss you?
break-up-blues
If the thought of your significant other touching you makes you flinch or makes you upset, then you should blow out fizzling flame for good while you still can. However, if their embrace makes you feel safe and happy, then give it time. This person may not be your ideal partner, but they may be the long run partner that you need.
Remember that if the attraction is not there, then get out when you can. But also remember, that the one who gets away is always the one you push away.
A slow-burning romance is when one significant other in a content relationship admits that he or she did not fall in love right away with their partner instantaneously, but rather “grew to love” their like-minded partner over some time.
It may lack the kind of intensity that makes for a How I Met Your Mother-like story to tell to your closest friends and relatives, but it definitely beats the nauseating drama of explosive passion that fizzles just as quickly as it sparked up. (A hopeless romantic’s kyrptonite.)
The only problem that comes with a slow-burning romance is that at the beginning it is too difficult to determine whether you’re really “INTO” someone or not. Are you a realist who realizes a life-long partner is not going to be Don Juan Demarco? Or are you simply settling because you’re too afraid of being alone?
So how do you determine if your slow-burning romance will ignite a long-lasting flame or if it simply needs to be blown out?
By asking yourself the following three questions, you will have the love advice you need to make the right decision in your love life:
Dating Tip # 1: Do You Enjoy Your Significant Other’s Company?
Sure, your partner doesn’t make your heart skip a beat, but do you enjoy his or her company when they are around? Can you talk to them openly about your deepest desires and goals in life? Is hanging out with playing video games on a Friday night as fulfilling as a date out on the town? If the answer is yes, you should definitely give your partner a few more dates before making any rash decisions.
Dating Tip # 2: When you received good news, is your significant other the first person you want to share this news with?
Obviously, I don’t need to tell you that this a great sign. It means your partner is on your mind and first on your priority list–whether you love it or not.
Dating Tip # 3: Do you tense up when they want to touch, hug or kiss you?
break-up-blues
If the thought of your significant other touching you makes you flinch or makes you upset, then you should blow out fizzling flame for good while you still can. However, if their embrace makes you feel safe and happy, then give it time. This person may not be your ideal partner, but they may be the long run partner that you need.
Remember that if the attraction is not there, then get out when you can. But also remember, that the one who gets away is always the one you push away.
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