MOVING IN TOGETHER: IS THERE ROOM FOR 2?
When you find love and decide to move in together, it seems like a great idea. You’re taking a big step in your relationship and you’re getting everything you wanted. But, are you?
Its bedtime and you’re used to sprawling out to get comfy. However, you know have someone else in the bed with you and you’re fighting for space that used to be occupied to you. You thought, you would be cuddling every night.
Its dinnertime and you’re hungry for pizza. You failed to remember that your better half could consume a whole pizza in minutes. You’re now going to the refrigerator to find some leftovers from two nights ago.
Moving in with someone is a big step for every relationship. This is when you start to share you resources. That chip dip that would last you 4 nights is gone in one sitting and the loaf of bread that seemed to last forever is gone within a week.
You have to learn the real meaning of sharing. It’s difficult to wrap your head around the idea of sharing everything with this other person, albeit you’re in love with them. Sometimes, that pizza is just your pizza and sharing you morning coffee seems like a giant feat. You have to remember, you’ve made it! You’re living with your lover and your best friend. But, sharing the space is hard.
I bet you didn’t realize how much space you actually hard before they moved in, right? Right now, it seems like their hogging all the space, there is room for you anymore. The alarm clock goes off at 6am, its time for your morning run. However, they won’t take up until 7:30am, hitting the snooze button and accidentally waking them up twice before 7:30am seems like the end of the world. What a great way to start off the morning, with a cranky partner. Remember, you’re in love and you have a lot of things other people only dream of having. To smooth things over, when you get back from your run make breakfast for their wake up time. Everything will be ok, this moving in thing, is a great thing.
It seems one person needs everything and the other nothing. Someone will walk into a store and the “I need, I need” kicks in. You know, you go into a shop to get some mouthwash and you leave with £150 worth of merchandise. While they never spend money on anything, maybe an odd lunch here and there. It makes you feel like you’re doing something wrong. You’re not, it’s just the way people are, spenders and keepers. Maybe each of your can learn a few things from each other. Its ok to spend, but don’t over or under spend. You’re in a relationship now; start saving for a trip together.
Moving in is a step that every relationship needs to take. Its rarely every easy and you’ll learn new things about each other. You just have to remember, you’re in love, you’re happy. It will take time to get used to this new situation, but that is the same for everything. You can do it, you can make it work.
