For Free Online Dating whether its an older woman with a younger guy or the reverse, May/December relationships have been around for ages. These relationships however, have an added pressure.
You either have this determination to make it work to spite the people who think it won’t, or you end up with those voices in your head making you worry that they are right. Sometimes even the stigma of the type of relationship is enough to sour people on it. But if you are willing to tough it out, and try to make it work, there are some things you should keep in mind that will help make it last.
Take advantage of shared interests, and make the most of them!
Show the world why you were attracted to each other in the first place by doing and enjoying things that you both love, whether it’s music, movies, or wine tasting! By continuing to indulge in things you both love, you will reinforce the bond you have with each other.
Embrace the Differences!
Allow your partner to introduce you to things you might not necessarily have noticed before them. Beware though, of trying to make your partner into someone closer to your own age. Compromise by designating one night a week for each partner to plan out that will allow them to enjoy a separate interest with you.
Be Respectful.
Many times, the older partner can talk down to the younger one without even realizing it, and the younger one may make jabs at the older one without realizing it. Especially during disagreements. If age comes up during a fight, make sure it’s done in a mature manner, and allows for an open dialogue so you can both share your feelings. Many times, in May-December relationships, the older partner will dominate discussions and conversations. An easy way to avoid this is to actively involve the younger person by asking them to share their feelings or opinions and engaging them.
Also bear in mind the fact that as you both age, the older your younger partner gets, the less likely the age difference will be an issue. For example, the difference in generational interests between a 19 year old and a 30 year old is more significant than one between a 39 year old and a 50 year old.
Ultimately, a relationship with an age gap is no different than two people from different cultures getting involved. They both have formed opinions on life, and they now must learn to combine and harmonize them. As long as both partners can be aware of this fact, and are willing to put forth the effort, there’s no reason why a May-December relationship can’t work. Remember, its not the age gap itself that will make or break the relationship, its the people in it.
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