Monday, 27 April 2015
Lachido Why Should I Join?
Lachido.com is a dating site (you knew that already right?), We care about you having a good experience using this site so you can tell your single friends to join! Do most other dating sites have fully customizable profiles, serious people looking for serious relationships etc? Nope!
If you’re looking for love, our dating advice guides will give you all the information you need to get started. From first date advice to what men and women are really looking for in a partner, with our help you’ll be able to put your dating nerves behind you and start dating at a pace that’s right for you. And when you’re ready, we offer plenty of date ideas.
Friday, 27 March 2015
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About Lachido dating
Lachido.com is a dating site (you knew that already right?), We care about you having a good experience using this site so you can tell your single friends to join! Do most other dating sites have fully customizable profiles, serious people looking for serious relationships etc? Nope!
What makes Lachido.com different than other dating sites out there? I think we have a lot of great features that are wrapped up in a very easy to use interface. We feel the quality of our product is at least as good as any other dating site (and better than most to be honest). Some of our cool features:
If you’re looking for love, our dating advice guides will give you all the information you need to get started. From first date advice to what men and women are really looking for in a partner, with our help you’ll be able to put your dating nerves behind you and start dating at a pace that’s right for you. And when you’re ready, we offer plenty of date ideas.
Also has all of the other features you would come to expect from a high quality dating site. We really try to keep things simple around here. A lot of sites pack in tons of features but are a pain or confusing to use. Dating is already hard enough we figure. No need to torture people further with a confusing web site.Well if you think this site is cool feel free to join.
Friday, 27 February 2015
Lachido Dating Myths Debunked
Lachido Dating Myths Debunked
To our great detriment, many single ladies are prone to making cold judgements about good people before we even give them a proper
chance when it comes to our relationships. And for this, I blame outdated old wives’ tales and stereotypes.
In order to have the true dating experience we all crave for, we must shed some light on some common dating myths and why we shouldn’t be living by them.
Dating Myth #1: Owning More Than One Cat Does Not Mean You Will Die An Old Maid
When we hear some woman has more than one cat, what is the first phrase that generally pops into your heads? “Crazy cat lady” would have been what I would have thought. Sure, there are crazy women that own cats for some reason, however it’s ridiculous to compare mental illness and celibacy with owning multiple cats.
Dating Myth # 2: Women Who Love Sweatpants Need Professional Help
The baggy sweatpants have gotten a bad reputation as of late. Almost every depression commercial depicts the sweatpants as a sure fire sign of mental instability. However, I beg to differ. Just because a woman wants to put on her most comfortable and over-sized sweatpants, does not means he needs to be quarantined and sedated. So behalf of all the sweatpant-wearing lounging single ladies out there, I salute you!
Dating Myth # 3: Poor Is The Same As Cheap
As women, we have a tendency to compare broke men to cheap men and I’m here to say that there is a HUGE difference between the two. Broke men may not have much, but what they do have, they happily share. Cheapskates, on the other hand, have a lot, but are really stingy about sharing it. A broke person’s paycheque is usually a temporary situation, where a cheap person’s attachment to his money is lifelong.
Dating Myth # 4: The Word ‘Nice’ Is Code For Hideous
Generally if you are in your teens or early twenties, hearing the word “nice” about a guy your friend was setting you up with usually meant they were ugly. However, after you get to your late twenties, you will realize that the word ‘Nice’ is usually welcome after the ‘cool’ guys broke your hearts.
To our great detriment, many single ladies are prone to making cold judgements about good people before we even give them a proper
chance when it comes to our relationships. And for this, I blame outdated old wives’ tales and stereotypes.
In order to have the true dating experience we all crave for, we must shed some light on some common dating myths and why we shouldn’t be living by them.
Dating Myth #1: Owning More Than One Cat Does Not Mean You Will Die An Old Maid
When we hear some woman has more than one cat, what is the first phrase that generally pops into your heads? “Crazy cat lady” would have been what I would have thought. Sure, there are crazy women that own cats for some reason, however it’s ridiculous to compare mental illness and celibacy with owning multiple cats.
Dating Myth # 2: Women Who Love Sweatpants Need Professional Help
The baggy sweatpants have gotten a bad reputation as of late. Almost every depression commercial depicts the sweatpants as a sure fire sign of mental instability. However, I beg to differ. Just because a woman wants to put on her most comfortable and over-sized sweatpants, does not means he needs to be quarantined and sedated. So behalf of all the sweatpant-wearing lounging single ladies out there, I salute you!
Dating Myth # 3: Poor Is The Same As Cheap
As women, we have a tendency to compare broke men to cheap men and I’m here to say that there is a HUGE difference between the two. Broke men may not have much, but what they do have, they happily share. Cheapskates, on the other hand, have a lot, but are really stingy about sharing it. A broke person’s paycheque is usually a temporary situation, where a cheap person’s attachment to his money is lifelong.
Dating Myth # 4: The Word ‘Nice’ Is Code For Hideous
Generally if you are in your teens or early twenties, hearing the word “nice” about a guy your friend was setting you up with usually meant they were ugly. However, after you get to your late twenties, you will realize that the word ‘Nice’ is usually welcome after the ‘cool’ guys broke your hearts.
Friday, 30 January 2015
Lachido Im Haunted By An Old Love?
Lachido Im Haunted By An Old Love?
What is Love? Most of us know what it is NOT. It’s not always on time or in our time. It is not always simple, although sometimes it is. It says one thing and means another and it always disappoints us at one time or another.
So the real question is, why is it that we can’t live without it? Writers write about it. Singers sing about it and if we’re lucky, it is the first impression we have of this world.
Although some of us don’t welcome love into our lives–sometimes others remain haunted by it and are too scared to move on with their lives because they are constantly reminded of their ghosts of ex boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s past.
Dating Tip # 1: Get Rid of Past Mementos
Photos, holiday cards and even that bottle of perfume he bought for you can actually open up old wounds and continue to remind you of negative emotions associated with your ex. Clean out your apartment, car, and office of all mementos and objects you associate with your former partner. If you can’t part with them, give them to a friend who will keep it away for you in storage.
Dating Tip # 2: Release Your Inner Anger
If you are consistently haunted by an ex lover, you most likely have unresolved anger towards them. That’s okay, but if you don’t deal with the residual anger constructively, you can’t let go of your past. The most essential part of exorcising your ex from your mind and your heart is to release the inner demons. Try writing a really honest and angry letter to that person – and then throw it away. Or go to the quietest and isolated location where no one can hear or see you and yell at him or her at the top of your lungs until you’ve said absolutely everything you need to say and have gotten it all off your chest.
Dating Tip # 3: Throw Out Every Mariah Carey Album You Own
From my own personal experience, listening to Mariah Carey’s sappy love ballads towards her exes do not and will not help the healing process of getting over an ex-lover. Almost all of her albums focus on break ups–the same goes for Adele.
Dating Tip # 4: Stop Embracing The “Old You”
Sometimes when we carry old wounds, we behave in the present as if that relationship or situation is still going on. Your current partner may find him or herself in a relationship with “the old you” rather than the improved, evolved person you should be aiming to be. Live in the present, examine your current relationships and situation, and change your behaviour to fit the way things actually are right now.
Dating Tip # 5: Seek A Professional Therapist
If you are really feeling distressed, angry, or upset, or if you feel as if the past is preventing you from moving on, I strongly encourage you to enlist the assistance the ultimate exorcist: a relationship counsellor or therapist. Another person’s perspective can help you move on with your life so you can live a happy life without being constantly haunted by your past.
What is Love? Most of us know what it is NOT. It’s not always on time or in our time. It is not always simple, although sometimes it is. It says one thing and means another and it always disappoints us at one time or another.
So the real question is, why is it that we can’t live without it? Writers write about it. Singers sing about it and if we’re lucky, it is the first impression we have of this world.
Although some of us don’t welcome love into our lives–sometimes others remain haunted by it and are too scared to move on with their lives because they are constantly reminded of their ghosts of ex boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s past.
Dating Tip # 1: Get Rid of Past Mementos
Photos, holiday cards and even that bottle of perfume he bought for you can actually open up old wounds and continue to remind you of negative emotions associated with your ex. Clean out your apartment, car, and office of all mementos and objects you associate with your former partner. If you can’t part with them, give them to a friend who will keep it away for you in storage.
Dating Tip # 2: Release Your Inner Anger
If you are consistently haunted by an ex lover, you most likely have unresolved anger towards them. That’s okay, but if you don’t deal with the residual anger constructively, you can’t let go of your past. The most essential part of exorcising your ex from your mind and your heart is to release the inner demons. Try writing a really honest and angry letter to that person – and then throw it away. Or go to the quietest and isolated location where no one can hear or see you and yell at him or her at the top of your lungs until you’ve said absolutely everything you need to say and have gotten it all off your chest.
Dating Tip # 3: Throw Out Every Mariah Carey Album You Own
From my own personal experience, listening to Mariah Carey’s sappy love ballads towards her exes do not and will not help the healing process of getting over an ex-lover. Almost all of her albums focus on break ups–the same goes for Adele.
Dating Tip # 4: Stop Embracing The “Old You”
Sometimes when we carry old wounds, we behave in the present as if that relationship or situation is still going on. Your current partner may find him or herself in a relationship with “the old you” rather than the improved, evolved person you should be aiming to be. Live in the present, examine your current relationships and situation, and change your behaviour to fit the way things actually are right now.
Dating Tip # 5: Seek A Professional Therapist
If you are really feeling distressed, angry, or upset, or if you feel as if the past is preventing you from moving on, I strongly encourage you to enlist the assistance the ultimate exorcist: a relationship counsellor or therapist. Another person’s perspective can help you move on with your life so you can live a happy life without being constantly haunted by your past.
Monday, 29 December 2014
Lachido The Pitfalls of a Valentine Day Gift
I can’t tell you how many times I have seen couples fight about Valentine’s Day gifts. What you got, what you didn’t get, what you wanted, what was EXPECTED. And that is the problem right there. Between corporations looking to capitalize, and social pressures, we have come to have certain expectations for our valentines gifts. Allow me to explain…
Valentines day gossip gifts
You have lunch with your girlfriends. Its mid January. The conversation eventually gets around to everyone’s plans for Valentine’s Day. One pal mentions that her and her b/f are going down to Mexico for a week, all inclusive. Which is fine.
Then she casually throws in that it’s his gift to her. Suddenly, almost like a gust of wind, the tone changes. Now each girl at the table with a boyfriend is asking herself the same general thing:
“Why isn’t so-and-so doing something like that for me?” or “I wish so-and-so would do something like that for me…”
Even though logically, they know WHY it wouldn’t be happening. Whether its financial, time off work, or whatever, you know why you boyfriend might not be going that wild for valentines day. Mabye he just doesn’t believe in showing such a ridiculous amount of affection on one specific day and shows you love throughout the year. Either way, you still get that pang of jealousy.
Society is so concerned with status and what other people have, that when we don’t have the same things, we automatically feel pressured to strive for them. Which, in some ways is great. But not when it comes to love. You simply cannot compare your relationship to another one, it won’t work. There’s different situations, dynamics and emotions involved. The sooner you acknowledge and accept this, the healthier your relationship will get.
Valentines day gifts healthy relationship
The only person you have to make happy in a relationship is your partner. When you are planning a gift for them, there’s really only two things to consider:
What THEY want. Yeah you may end up on a weekend getaway that you would not necessarily choose for yourself. But you love you significant other, and really, the holiday isn’t about what you are doing, it’s who you are doing it with. Also, don’t buy them something you would want, or, if you live together, something ‘householdy.’ That’s a trip straight to the doghouse.
Valentines day gifts food and wine
Income/Finances. Ok, so you you know you and your partner would love to go to that food and wine festival 5 hours away. But can your finances take the hit? Especially if the trip involves taking time off work. Could you even afford to take a day off, depending on what the gift was? Consider your income when choosing a gift, don’t put yourself in the poorhouse trying to impress them. You already have them, and if they truly love you, they’ll realize that its the thought that counts.
As a gift receiver, be aware of these things as well, and accept them. As long as your partner puts effort and thought into your gift, that’s all that is important. Keep in mind too that you and your friends may move in different income brackets, so comparison of gifts is a really horrible idea.
At the end of the day, don’t let societal pressures make you feel like you and your sweetheart don’t have good enough Valentine’s plans. No one knows the true story of your relationship but YOU, and as long as you to keep each other happy, one single gift on a corporate cash grab of a holiday won’t change a thing.
Valentines day gossip gifts
You have lunch with your girlfriends. Its mid January. The conversation eventually gets around to everyone’s plans for Valentine’s Day. One pal mentions that her and her b/f are going down to Mexico for a week, all inclusive. Which is fine.
Then she casually throws in that it’s his gift to her. Suddenly, almost like a gust of wind, the tone changes. Now each girl at the table with a boyfriend is asking herself the same general thing:
“Why isn’t so-and-so doing something like that for me?” or “I wish so-and-so would do something like that for me…”
Even though logically, they know WHY it wouldn’t be happening. Whether its financial, time off work, or whatever, you know why you boyfriend might not be going that wild for valentines day. Mabye he just doesn’t believe in showing such a ridiculous amount of affection on one specific day and shows you love throughout the year. Either way, you still get that pang of jealousy.
Society is so concerned with status and what other people have, that when we don’t have the same things, we automatically feel pressured to strive for them. Which, in some ways is great. But not when it comes to love. You simply cannot compare your relationship to another one, it won’t work. There’s different situations, dynamics and emotions involved. The sooner you acknowledge and accept this, the healthier your relationship will get.
Valentines day gifts healthy relationship
The only person you have to make happy in a relationship is your partner. When you are planning a gift for them, there’s really only two things to consider:
What THEY want. Yeah you may end up on a weekend getaway that you would not necessarily choose for yourself. But you love you significant other, and really, the holiday isn’t about what you are doing, it’s who you are doing it with. Also, don’t buy them something you would want, or, if you live together, something ‘householdy.’ That’s a trip straight to the doghouse.
Valentines day gifts food and wine
Income/Finances. Ok, so you you know you and your partner would love to go to that food and wine festival 5 hours away. But can your finances take the hit? Especially if the trip involves taking time off work. Could you even afford to take a day off, depending on what the gift was? Consider your income when choosing a gift, don’t put yourself in the poorhouse trying to impress them. You already have them, and if they truly love you, they’ll realize that its the thought that counts.
As a gift receiver, be aware of these things as well, and accept them. As long as your partner puts effort and thought into your gift, that’s all that is important. Keep in mind too that you and your friends may move in different income brackets, so comparison of gifts is a really horrible idea.
At the end of the day, don’t let societal pressures make you feel like you and your sweetheart don’t have good enough Valentine’s plans. No one knows the true story of your relationship but YOU, and as long as you to keep each other happy, one single gift on a corporate cash grab of a holiday won’t change a thing.
Friday, 28 November 2014
Lachido Fight Fair Without Playing the Blame Game
Admit it, we have all had a fight or two with our partners where we haven’t exactly played fair, whether its by bringing up a past argument, or walking away before the fight has been settled. These kinds of fights can happen, but the problem is when ALL of your fights turn out like this. A relationship should always be 50/50, and when a person starts bringing name calling, or passing the blame off themselves onto the partner, the relationship clearly isn’t equal.
Where does the attitude come from? Usually, it stems from a fear of losing control. The fight could feel so large that they are afraid of where it might end up, and so the best idea at that point, is to blame someone else.The fear and frustration has to get out somehow, and unfortunately, it ends up directed at the people we care the most about. The best thing you can do in that situation is to stop and think: “Is this the person the real reason I am upset right now? What has really caused my bad mood?” If it’s not your partner, maybe you need to leave the room and take some alone time, to prevent a disagreement.
*Did you know: the act of blaming can trigger a burst of adrenalin in your body.*
In today’s society, if we don’t have someone or something to blame, we don’t feel that we can learn or grow. Its like in grade school when they tell you, ‘You have to make mistakes to learn.” This implies that there needs to be a catalyst to learn or improve from. We have been taught this from such a young age, it seems natural as an adult to think that in order to improve your relationship, there needs to be a mistake made. This is totally not true! You do not need any sort of action or situation to occur in order to better yourself! Have you ever read an educational book, just for fun? Have you ever done an activity just because you felt like it, and were surprised that you learned something? The same thing applies to relationships! You can make your relationship better without having a flaw to pick at.
Here are a few basic tips on how to fight fair in an argument:
Take responsibility
Accept that an argument takes two people, and try to understand how you have contributed to the current problem. You may not think that you started it, or even that you’ve done anything wrong, but acknowledging to your partner that you may have exacerbated the fight can help calm both parties down. As long as you don’t say it in a patronizing way, that is. Also, don’t threaten to end the relationship over one fight, or argue just so that you can win the argument. Sometimes, even if you are right, the best course of action is to let the person vent and let the fight die out on its own. Try to be respectful of your partner’s point of view, even if you do not necessarily agree with it. Respect and Responsibility can go a long way to smoothing over even the biggest fights.
Avoid Name Calling
Name calling is the worst and most immature thing you can do when fighting with your partner. Remember, names will never hurt you, but they can make people question your maturity level. Which will lead to the question, “Are they mature enough to handle an adult relationship?” Even using a pet name for your partner sarcastically can be considered immature, so its best to either use their actual name, or dont use one at all.
Dont Talk Down
Talking down to your partner can cause them to feel that you don’t view them as an equal. When you talk down to someone, it implies that you view them as inferior, stupid, or childish. This is not the way you want your relationship to go, so try to avoid using certain tones of voice or vocabulary when fighting. Talking condescendingly and attacking your partner personally won’t solve the current problem, and it makes you look low. Relationships are all about equality, remember?
Leave the past in the past
Arguments from months past still leaving you raw? DON’T bring them up in the heat of another argument. Letting issues pile and pile up until they burst out during a completely unrelated fight are a sure way to cause long-term problems. You are simply adding more fuel to an already growing flame, and it may get to the point where you can’t put it out. It is going to put your partner on the defense, and they will likely come back out swinging with mistakes that YOU have made. You are better off focusing on the issue at hand, and saving any lingering past problems for another time.
Where does the attitude come from? Usually, it stems from a fear of losing control. The fight could feel so large that they are afraid of where it might end up, and so the best idea at that point, is to blame someone else.The fear and frustration has to get out somehow, and unfortunately, it ends up directed at the people we care the most about. The best thing you can do in that situation is to stop and think: “Is this the person the real reason I am upset right now? What has really caused my bad mood?” If it’s not your partner, maybe you need to leave the room and take some alone time, to prevent a disagreement.
*Did you know: the act of blaming can trigger a burst of adrenalin in your body.*
In today’s society, if we don’t have someone or something to blame, we don’t feel that we can learn or grow. Its like in grade school when they tell you, ‘You have to make mistakes to learn.” This implies that there needs to be a catalyst to learn or improve from. We have been taught this from such a young age, it seems natural as an adult to think that in order to improve your relationship, there needs to be a mistake made. This is totally not true! You do not need any sort of action or situation to occur in order to better yourself! Have you ever read an educational book, just for fun? Have you ever done an activity just because you felt like it, and were surprised that you learned something? The same thing applies to relationships! You can make your relationship better without having a flaw to pick at.
Here are a few basic tips on how to fight fair in an argument:
Take responsibility
Accept that an argument takes two people, and try to understand how you have contributed to the current problem. You may not think that you started it, or even that you’ve done anything wrong, but acknowledging to your partner that you may have exacerbated the fight can help calm both parties down. As long as you don’t say it in a patronizing way, that is. Also, don’t threaten to end the relationship over one fight, or argue just so that you can win the argument. Sometimes, even if you are right, the best course of action is to let the person vent and let the fight die out on its own. Try to be respectful of your partner’s point of view, even if you do not necessarily agree with it. Respect and Responsibility can go a long way to smoothing over even the biggest fights.
Avoid Name Calling
Name calling is the worst and most immature thing you can do when fighting with your partner. Remember, names will never hurt you, but they can make people question your maturity level. Which will lead to the question, “Are they mature enough to handle an adult relationship?” Even using a pet name for your partner sarcastically can be considered immature, so its best to either use their actual name, or dont use one at all.
Dont Talk Down
Talking down to your partner can cause them to feel that you don’t view them as an equal. When you talk down to someone, it implies that you view them as inferior, stupid, or childish. This is not the way you want your relationship to go, so try to avoid using certain tones of voice or vocabulary when fighting. Talking condescendingly and attacking your partner personally won’t solve the current problem, and it makes you look low. Relationships are all about equality, remember?
Leave the past in the past
Arguments from months past still leaving you raw? DON’T bring them up in the heat of another argument. Letting issues pile and pile up until they burst out during a completely unrelated fight are a sure way to cause long-term problems. You are simply adding more fuel to an already growing flame, and it may get to the point where you can’t put it out. It is going to put your partner on the defense, and they will likely come back out swinging with mistakes that YOU have made. You are better off focusing on the issue at hand, and saving any lingering past problems for another time.
Thursday, 23 October 2014
Lachido Make Your Text And Online Relationship Reality
Do you remember when you first received a date via text message?
It was new and exciting and it probably occurred before the final episode of Sex And The City aired.
You saved it, cherished it and showed it to all your pals and held your phone like it was a trophy that deserved to be on a pedestal.
However, these days it seems like we have taken advantage of the convenience text messages have given us and have become slaves to the
laziness of pursuing or even breaking up with our romantic interests through text message, BBM and online.
Do you think I sound crazy? Just think about it for a second. How many times have you started a relationship through texting?
How many times have you been broken up with over a text? I bet you don’t want to admit it’s a number above zero and it most likely is.
It’s tragic but society has embraced the convenience of text messaging and because of that we have also unfortunately embraced infidelity,
booty calls and lack of physical contact because of it. To much of a good thing is never good and because of that we have become text-savvy robots in our real-life relationships.
Online Relationship Flaws
What has the world come to??
If you must put your feelings into words, make sure it comes from your own handwriting. If you want to know how somebody’s day is,
pick up your phone and call them if you need to break up with someone, please do so in person.
The more we keep embracing texting into our love lives, the more egotistical and superficial we will become– which will make it even
that much harder to find someone who we can spend the rest of our lives with.
Don’t let your textuality take over your thoughts, emotions and actions in your every day lives. Life is too short to be hiding behind your iPhones and Blackberrys.
It was new and exciting and it probably occurred before the final episode of Sex And The City aired.
You saved it, cherished it and showed it to all your pals and held your phone like it was a trophy that deserved to be on a pedestal.
However, these days it seems like we have taken advantage of the convenience text messages have given us and have become slaves to the
laziness of pursuing or even breaking up with our romantic interests through text message, BBM and online.
Do you think I sound crazy? Just think about it for a second. How many times have you started a relationship through texting?
How many times have you been broken up with over a text? I bet you don’t want to admit it’s a number above zero and it most likely is.
It’s tragic but society has embraced the convenience of text messaging and because of that we have also unfortunately embraced infidelity,
booty calls and lack of physical contact because of it. To much of a good thing is never good and because of that we have become text-savvy robots in our real-life relationships.
Online Relationship Flaws
What has the world come to??
If you must put your feelings into words, make sure it comes from your own handwriting. If you want to know how somebody’s day is,
pick up your phone and call them if you need to break up with someone, please do so in person.
The more we keep embracing texting into our love lives, the more egotistical and superficial we will become– which will make it even
that much harder to find someone who we can spend the rest of our lives with.
Don’t let your textuality take over your thoughts, emotions and actions in your every day lives. Life is too short to be hiding behind your iPhones and Blackberrys.
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