Do Fairy Tale Romances Exist?
Since we were little, we always assumed that our romanticlives would be as perfect as they are in fairy tales.
One day Prince Charming would come to sweep you off your feet and you would live happily ever after in bliss . Unfortunately, many of us seem to delude ourselves that fairy tales are meant for everybody and more importantly, for the real world.
Dating Tip 1: Have Realistic Expectations On What Makes A Happy Relationship
Unless you have the ability to grow hair that someone can use to climb up a castle, you should keep your expectations far more realistic and avoid comparing your lovelives to the lives from characters out of a The Brothers Grimm tale. Your knight in shining armor shouldn’t be someone who would save you from a burning castle. He should be someone who will cook you dinner after a rough day at work. He should be someone who can carry meaningful conversations with your friends. He should be someone who loves you even when you’re PMSing and who will sit through your favorite groan-inducing reality shows with you.
Dating Tip #2: Be A Damsel In Power
Stop resorting to being a damsel in distress and rather be damsel in power.
A damsel in power is a woman who is supportive and doesn’t have Rapunzel-sized extensions running down her back. She should be someone who can handle being in a room with her boyfriend’s alcoholic father and not even bat an eye. She should be someone who loves her because he’s a good man and not because he makes a good salary they both can live off.
If you’re looking for the optimal romance, remember that you can live happily ever after if you choose to live within your realistic expectations of love. If not, you will find out first hand that some times happy fairy tale endings are for stories that haven’t ended yet.
Friday, 28 August 2015
Wednesday, 29 July 2015
Lachido Are You Haunted By An Old Love
What is Love? Most of us know what it is NOT. It’s not always on time or in our time. It is not always simple, although sometimes it is. It says one thing and means another and it always disappoints us at one time or another.
So the real question is, why is it that we can’t live without it? Writers write about it. Singers sing about it and if we’re lucky, it is the first impression we have of this world.
Although some of us don’t welcome love into our lives–sometimes others remain haunted by it and are too scared to move on with their lives because they are constantly reminded of their ghosts of ex boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s past.
Dating Tip # 1: Get Rid of Past Mementos
Photos, holiday cards and even that bottle of perfume he bought for you can actually open up old wounds and continue to remind you of negative emotions associated with your ex. Clean out your apartment, car, and office of all mementos and objects you associate with your former partner. If you can’t part with them, give them to a friend who will keep it away for you in storage.
Dating Tip # 2: Release Your Inner Anger
If you are consistently haunted by an ex lover, you most likely have unresolved anger towards them. That’s okay, but if you don’t deal with the residual anger constructively, you can’t let go of your past. The most essential part of exorcising your ex from your mind and your heart is to release the inner demons. Try writing a really honest and angry letter to that person – and then throw it away. Or go to the quietest and isolated location where no one can hear or see you and yell at him or her at the top of your lungs until you’ve said absolutely everything you need to say and have gotten it all off your chest.
Dating Tip # 3: Throw Out Every Mariah Carey Album You Own
From my own personal experience, listening to Mariah Carey’s sappy love ballads towards her exes do not and will not help the healing process of getting over an ex-lover. Almost all of her albums focus on break ups–the same goes for Adele.
Dating Tip # 4: Stop Embracing The “Old You”
Sometimes when we carry old wounds, we behave in the present as if that relationship or situation is still going on. Your current partner may find him or herself in a relationship with “the old you” rather than the improved, evolved person you should be aiming to be. Live in the present, examine your current relationships and situation, and change your behavior to fit the way things actually are right now.
Dating Tip # 5: Seek A Professional Therapist
If you are really feeling distressed, angry, or upset, or if you feel as if the past is preventing you from moving on, I strongly encourage you to enlist the assistance the ultimate exorcist: a relationship counselor or therapist. Another person’s perspective can help you move on with your life so you can live a happy life without being constantly haunted by your past.
So the real question is, why is it that we can’t live without it? Writers write about it. Singers sing about it and if we’re lucky, it is the first impression we have of this world.
Although some of us don’t welcome love into our lives–sometimes others remain haunted by it and are too scared to move on with their lives because they are constantly reminded of their ghosts of ex boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s past.
Dating Tip # 1: Get Rid of Past Mementos
Photos, holiday cards and even that bottle of perfume he bought for you can actually open up old wounds and continue to remind you of negative emotions associated with your ex. Clean out your apartment, car, and office of all mementos and objects you associate with your former partner. If you can’t part with them, give them to a friend who will keep it away for you in storage.
Dating Tip # 2: Release Your Inner Anger
If you are consistently haunted by an ex lover, you most likely have unresolved anger towards them. That’s okay, but if you don’t deal with the residual anger constructively, you can’t let go of your past. The most essential part of exorcising your ex from your mind and your heart is to release the inner demons. Try writing a really honest and angry letter to that person – and then throw it away. Or go to the quietest and isolated location where no one can hear or see you and yell at him or her at the top of your lungs until you’ve said absolutely everything you need to say and have gotten it all off your chest.
Dating Tip # 3: Throw Out Every Mariah Carey Album You Own
From my own personal experience, listening to Mariah Carey’s sappy love ballads towards her exes do not and will not help the healing process of getting over an ex-lover. Almost all of her albums focus on break ups–the same goes for Adele.
Dating Tip # 4: Stop Embracing The “Old You”
Sometimes when we carry old wounds, we behave in the present as if that relationship or situation is still going on. Your current partner may find him or herself in a relationship with “the old you” rather than the improved, evolved person you should be aiming to be. Live in the present, examine your current relationships and situation, and change your behavior to fit the way things actually are right now.
Dating Tip # 5: Seek A Professional Therapist
If you are really feeling distressed, angry, or upset, or if you feel as if the past is preventing you from moving on, I strongly encourage you to enlist the assistance the ultimate exorcist: a relationship counselor or therapist. Another person’s perspective can help you move on with your life so you can live a happy life without being constantly haunted by your past.
Monday, 29 June 2015
Lachido Should You Get Back with an Ex?
Should You Get Back with an Ex
Let’s face it, we’ve all asked ourselves this question at some point in our dating history: ‘Should I get back with him/her?’
It’s a complicated question, and the answer depends on the variables and dynamics of each relationship. Apologies if you came here looking for a definitive answer, because you are not going to get one. What I can give you though, are some tips and thoughts about the situation from a general point of view.
You Can’t ALWAYS Listen to Your Friends
Keep in mind, the only person who knows your situation and the dynamics of your relationship is YOU. Friends and family can give you their opinions till they are blue in the face, and it’s easy to do so when their own feelings aren’t at stake or invested. That is also the problem with friendly advice: the person doesn’t truly know your feelings or what goes on behind closed doors in your relationship. When a friend of mine recently split with her long-term fiance, many of our mutual friends advised her: “You can do better,” “You are better off, he didn’t treat you very well”,”etc etc ad nauseam. I was the only one to sit down and talk to her about her feelings, beyond the typical “Are you okay?” This can also stand as a tip for friends: don’t EVER bash your best friend’s ex! They are now back happy and together, and the naysayers are now frowned upon.
If your friends are expressing concern for your safety and well- being, then you definitely should take heed. But if you get the feeling they are just giving you the typical best friend support by bashing your ex and being there for you, then start taking a look inside at your own feelings, as objectively as possible.
Don’t Put on the Rose-Coloured Glasses.
If you are seriously considering rekindling your relationship, then you need to be as objective as possible about your relationship from it’s beginning straight through to the final day. Don’t start romanticizing your relationship, and remember WHY the breakup happened. This is not to say you should fixate on the negative, because that wont help either, you need to look at the positives and the negatives of your entire relationship period. Looking too much at one side or another will taint your view and possibly push you to make a final decision before you are quite ready. One thing that may help (as cheesy as it may sound) is a Pro/Con list. If you find that you have less than 5 more pros than cons, you should definitely hesitate. The issues you had before will just rehash themselves, and you need to acknowledge and be aware of them if you expect things to work a second time around.
Ask Yourself Why You Think It Will Work This Time Around
You and your ex (hopefully) know and acknowledge the reasons why the relationship ended. But what makes you think it will work if given a second (or third) chance? Have either of you made any significant changes in your lives since you’ve been apart to warrant a review, or has one of you had some sort of drastic revelation about where they may have gone wrong, and are now accepting their share of the blame? If absolutely NOTHING has changed since the split, then you may want to consider why you want them back. Loneliness? Nostalgia? The same problems you had before will still be there for you, its whether you have changed enough to work through them together or not that is the question.
The Odds Aren’t in Your Favor
I don’t mean to be a Debbie Downer, but in relationships where there’s a break followed by a reconciliation, the majority of the reconciliations don’t last. Either the people haven’t changed, haven’t changed enough, or they simply couldn’t work through the problems that caused it to crash and burn in the first place. You can be the exception the the rule, but only if you walk back in knowing the odds are against you, and are BOTH willing to put in the extra effort to make sure things don’t go south again.
Keep in mind also, that sometimes, love just isn’t enough in a relationship. It doesn’t mean that you are destined to be alone, it just means you are destined to find someone who is better suited to you.
Let’s face it, we’ve all asked ourselves this question at some point in our dating history: ‘Should I get back with him/her?’
It’s a complicated question, and the answer depends on the variables and dynamics of each relationship. Apologies if you came here looking for a definitive answer, because you are not going to get one. What I can give you though, are some tips and thoughts about the situation from a general point of view.
You Can’t ALWAYS Listen to Your Friends
Keep in mind, the only person who knows your situation and the dynamics of your relationship is YOU. Friends and family can give you their opinions till they are blue in the face, and it’s easy to do so when their own feelings aren’t at stake or invested. That is also the problem with friendly advice: the person doesn’t truly know your feelings or what goes on behind closed doors in your relationship. When a friend of mine recently split with her long-term fiance, many of our mutual friends advised her: “You can do better,” “You are better off, he didn’t treat you very well”,”etc etc ad nauseam. I was the only one to sit down and talk to her about her feelings, beyond the typical “Are you okay?” This can also stand as a tip for friends: don’t EVER bash your best friend’s ex! They are now back happy and together, and the naysayers are now frowned upon.
If your friends are expressing concern for your safety and well- being, then you definitely should take heed. But if you get the feeling they are just giving you the typical best friend support by bashing your ex and being there for you, then start taking a look inside at your own feelings, as objectively as possible.
Don’t Put on the Rose-Coloured Glasses.
If you are seriously considering rekindling your relationship, then you need to be as objective as possible about your relationship from it’s beginning straight through to the final day. Don’t start romanticizing your relationship, and remember WHY the breakup happened. This is not to say you should fixate on the negative, because that wont help either, you need to look at the positives and the negatives of your entire relationship period. Looking too much at one side or another will taint your view and possibly push you to make a final decision before you are quite ready. One thing that may help (as cheesy as it may sound) is a Pro/Con list. If you find that you have less than 5 more pros than cons, you should definitely hesitate. The issues you had before will just rehash themselves, and you need to acknowledge and be aware of them if you expect things to work a second time around.
Ask Yourself Why You Think It Will Work This Time Around
You and your ex (hopefully) know and acknowledge the reasons why the relationship ended. But what makes you think it will work if given a second (or third) chance? Have either of you made any significant changes in your lives since you’ve been apart to warrant a review, or has one of you had some sort of drastic revelation about where they may have gone wrong, and are now accepting their share of the blame? If absolutely NOTHING has changed since the split, then you may want to consider why you want them back. Loneliness? Nostalgia? The same problems you had before will still be there for you, its whether you have changed enough to work through them together or not that is the question.
The Odds Aren’t in Your Favor
I don’t mean to be a Debbie Downer, but in relationships where there’s a break followed by a reconciliation, the majority of the reconciliations don’t last. Either the people haven’t changed, haven’t changed enough, or they simply couldn’t work through the problems that caused it to crash and burn in the first place. You can be the exception the the rule, but only if you walk back in knowing the odds are against you, and are BOTH willing to put in the extra effort to make sure things don’t go south again.
Keep in mind also, that sometimes, love just isn’t enough in a relationship. It doesn’t mean that you are destined to be alone, it just means you are destined to find someone who is better suited to you.
Friday, 29 May 2015
Lachido Best Kissing Styles Ever
Everyone has a different technique when it comes to their own personal kissing style.
Some people are more reserved with their kissing than others, and some go all out right away.
But which ones are the most successful and most popular? I searched around to find out!
The Teasing Kiss
This type of kiss works especially well in the first stages of a relationship.
Make a couple of initial pecks on the lips, and then on the 3rd or 4th, slightly suck on their bottom lip for a moment.
Then repeat this process, but with their top lip. Keep doing this back and forth for a bit, and it is sure to elicit a sexy reaction from your partner.
The Relaxed Kiss
This is exactly how it sounds, and it’s one of the most popular types because it is intimate and romantic without coming across as too aggressive.
Keeping your jaws relaxed, touch your lips to theirs a few times, and slightly work your lower jaw as you continue kissing.
There’s no forced positioning for your lips in this style, which makes it comfortable, sweet and relaxing.
The French Kiss
This is the most popular kissing style, but it needs to be used in moderation and carefully.
The key is to not be too forceful and come out with a french kiss right out of the starting gate,
because if your opening move is to ram your tongue into the other person’s mouth, you’re gonna have a bad time. Start off slowly with normal,
soft kisses, and slooooowly work your tongue into the action. Don’t start by forcing it into their mouth either,
lick their lips briefly first and you’ll get an idea on how into frenching they are, and can take it from there.
The Aggressive, Passionate Kiss
We all love it once in a while. That kiss where the chemistry between you reaches its breaking point and you ABSOLUTELY MUST KISS THEM NOW.
The kiss begins with force and usually ends with passion, as you gradually relax as the tension slips away.
This kiss usually begins with a brief moment of silence, when you both know exactly what is about to happen and aren’t quite sure how to start off.
Finally you both can’t take any more and connect at the exact same moment in a firm, passionate liplock. It may or may not include tongue, this is optional.
The Tongue Twister
Start out with some romantic, slow kissing on the lips before guiding your tongue into the mix.
Once you feel theirs, twist your tongue in a corkscrew motion around it.
As you come full circle, pull your tongue back and lick towards the tip of their tongue, finishing with a soft peck on the lips.
A sure-fire way to drive anyone wild!
So now that’s you’ve got these top kisses in your mind, why not invite your crush over for a romantic movie night and try them out?
Some people are more reserved with their kissing than others, and some go all out right away.
But which ones are the most successful and most popular? I searched around to find out!
The Teasing Kiss
This type of kiss works especially well in the first stages of a relationship.
Make a couple of initial pecks on the lips, and then on the 3rd or 4th, slightly suck on their bottom lip for a moment.
Then repeat this process, but with their top lip. Keep doing this back and forth for a bit, and it is sure to elicit a sexy reaction from your partner.
The Relaxed Kiss
This is exactly how it sounds, and it’s one of the most popular types because it is intimate and romantic without coming across as too aggressive.
Keeping your jaws relaxed, touch your lips to theirs a few times, and slightly work your lower jaw as you continue kissing.
There’s no forced positioning for your lips in this style, which makes it comfortable, sweet and relaxing.
The French Kiss
This is the most popular kissing style, but it needs to be used in moderation and carefully.
The key is to not be too forceful and come out with a french kiss right out of the starting gate,
because if your opening move is to ram your tongue into the other person’s mouth, you’re gonna have a bad time. Start off slowly with normal,
soft kisses, and slooooowly work your tongue into the action. Don’t start by forcing it into their mouth either,
lick their lips briefly first and you’ll get an idea on how into frenching they are, and can take it from there.
The Aggressive, Passionate Kiss
We all love it once in a while. That kiss where the chemistry between you reaches its breaking point and you ABSOLUTELY MUST KISS THEM NOW.
The kiss begins with force and usually ends with passion, as you gradually relax as the tension slips away.
This kiss usually begins with a brief moment of silence, when you both know exactly what is about to happen and aren’t quite sure how to start off.
Finally you both can’t take any more and connect at the exact same moment in a firm, passionate liplock. It may or may not include tongue, this is optional.
The Tongue Twister
Start out with some romantic, slow kissing on the lips before guiding your tongue into the mix.
Once you feel theirs, twist your tongue in a corkscrew motion around it.
As you come full circle, pull your tongue back and lick towards the tip of their tongue, finishing with a soft peck on the lips.
A sure-fire way to drive anyone wild!
So now that’s you’ve got these top kisses in your mind, why not invite your crush over for a romantic movie night and try them out?
Monday, 27 April 2015
Lachido Why Should I Join?
Lachido Why Should I Join?
Lachido.com is a dating site (you knew that already right?), We care about you having a good experience using this site so you can tell your single friends to join! Do most other dating sites have fully customizable profiles, serious people looking for serious relationships etc? Nope!
What makes Lachido.com different than other dating sites out there? I think we have a lot of great features that are wrapped up in a very easy to use interface. We feel the quality of our product is at least as good as any other dating site (and better than most to be honest). Some of our cool features:
If you’re looking for love, our dating advice guides will give you all the information you need to get started. From first date advice to what men and women are really looking for in a partner, with our help you’ll be able to put your dating nerves behind you and start dating at a pace that’s right for you. And when you’re ready, we offer plenty of date ideas.
Also has all of the other features you would come to expect from a high quality dating site. We really try to keep things simple around here. A lot of sites pack in tons of features but are a pain or confusing to use. Dating is already hard enough we figure. No need to torture people further with a confusing web site.Well if you think this site is cool feel free to join.
Friday, 27 March 2015
Lachido
About Lachido dating
Lachido.com is a dating site (you knew that already right?), We care about you having a good experience using this site so you can tell your single friends to join! Do most other dating sites have fully customizable profiles, serious people looking for serious relationships etc? Nope!
What makes Lachido.com different than other dating sites out there? I think we have a lot of great features that are wrapped up in a very easy to use interface. We feel the quality of our product is at least as good as any other dating site (and better than most to be honest). Some of our cool features:
If you’re looking for love, our dating advice guides will give you all the information you need to get started. From first date advice to what men and women are really looking for in a partner, with our help you’ll be able to put your dating nerves behind you and start dating at a pace that’s right for you. And when you’re ready, we offer plenty of date ideas.
Also has all of the other features you would come to expect from a high quality dating site. We really try to keep things simple around here. A lot of sites pack in tons of features but are a pain or confusing to use. Dating is already hard enough we figure. No need to torture people further with a confusing web site.Well if you think this site is cool feel free to join.
Friday, 27 February 2015
Lachido Dating Myths Debunked
Lachido Dating Myths Debunked
To our great detriment, many single ladies are prone to making cold judgements about good people before we even give them a proper
chance when it comes to our relationships. And for this, I blame outdated old wives’ tales and stereotypes.
In order to have the true dating experience we all crave for, we must shed some light on some common dating myths and why we shouldn’t be living by them.
Dating Myth #1: Owning More Than One Cat Does Not Mean You Will Die An Old Maid
When we hear some woman has more than one cat, what is the first phrase that generally pops into your heads? “Crazy cat lady” would have been what I would have thought. Sure, there are crazy women that own cats for some reason, however it’s ridiculous to compare mental illness and celibacy with owning multiple cats.
Dating Myth # 2: Women Who Love Sweatpants Need Professional Help
The baggy sweatpants have gotten a bad reputation as of late. Almost every depression commercial depicts the sweatpants as a sure fire sign of mental instability. However, I beg to differ. Just because a woman wants to put on her most comfortable and over-sized sweatpants, does not means he needs to be quarantined and sedated. So behalf of all the sweatpant-wearing lounging single ladies out there, I salute you!
Dating Myth # 3: Poor Is The Same As Cheap
As women, we have a tendency to compare broke men to cheap men and I’m here to say that there is a HUGE difference between the two. Broke men may not have much, but what they do have, they happily share. Cheapskates, on the other hand, have a lot, but are really stingy about sharing it. A broke person’s paycheque is usually a temporary situation, where a cheap person’s attachment to his money is lifelong.
Dating Myth # 4: The Word ‘Nice’ Is Code For Hideous
Generally if you are in your teens or early twenties, hearing the word “nice” about a guy your friend was setting you up with usually meant they were ugly. However, after you get to your late twenties, you will realize that the word ‘Nice’ is usually welcome after the ‘cool’ guys broke your hearts.
To our great detriment, many single ladies are prone to making cold judgements about good people before we even give them a proper
chance when it comes to our relationships. And for this, I blame outdated old wives’ tales and stereotypes.
In order to have the true dating experience we all crave for, we must shed some light on some common dating myths and why we shouldn’t be living by them.
Dating Myth #1: Owning More Than One Cat Does Not Mean You Will Die An Old Maid
When we hear some woman has more than one cat, what is the first phrase that generally pops into your heads? “Crazy cat lady” would have been what I would have thought. Sure, there are crazy women that own cats for some reason, however it’s ridiculous to compare mental illness and celibacy with owning multiple cats.
Dating Myth # 2: Women Who Love Sweatpants Need Professional Help
The baggy sweatpants have gotten a bad reputation as of late. Almost every depression commercial depicts the sweatpants as a sure fire sign of mental instability. However, I beg to differ. Just because a woman wants to put on her most comfortable and over-sized sweatpants, does not means he needs to be quarantined and sedated. So behalf of all the sweatpant-wearing lounging single ladies out there, I salute you!
Dating Myth # 3: Poor Is The Same As Cheap
As women, we have a tendency to compare broke men to cheap men and I’m here to say that there is a HUGE difference between the two. Broke men may not have much, but what they do have, they happily share. Cheapskates, on the other hand, have a lot, but are really stingy about sharing it. A broke person’s paycheque is usually a temporary situation, where a cheap person’s attachment to his money is lifelong.
Dating Myth # 4: The Word ‘Nice’ Is Code For Hideous
Generally if you are in your teens or early twenties, hearing the word “nice” about a guy your friend was setting you up with usually meant they were ugly. However, after you get to your late twenties, you will realize that the word ‘Nice’ is usually welcome after the ‘cool’ guys broke your hearts.
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